by HeartWorks | Jul 3, 2017 | Enriching Articles |
When you learn the real essence behind cash, you will know how to master making Cash.
Whether you make a living in a job or build your own business, having and building cash is an important aspect of life. There is so much issues when people struggle with having enough cash – they constantly worry for their livelihood, puts themselves in a dilemma that they cannot seem to come out of and no matter what they do, cant seem to get themselves out of the situation. They develop illogical fears of life that leads to depression and ill heath, life seems to just spiral downward even more.
In actual fact, Cash is more an energy than just a physical paper note. How you deal with it is how you deal with how you treat yourself and others. If you would respect Cash, you will in turn have more come in. When you understand the dynamics behind how cash is a relationship with you and with the way you view all other areas of you life, you can improve it.
When I was struggling with depression because of cash, I seem to be stuck in a big black hole. No matter what I do, it feels like I am still stuck in that hole not being able to get out. It is only through understanding the energetics of cash – that it is an energy we harness, that it has a colour and an essence, that I need to have a healthy view and relationship with it. Only then with determination, self awareness and practise that I am able to get myself out of that situation and am happy to say that I continue to thrive with this new understanding of cash and able to help others with them too. So I highly recommend anyone who is wanting to get out of poverty, wanting to build a new level of cash in their life takes this invaluable workshop on cash.
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by HeartWorks | Jan 15, 2016 | Enriching Articles |
What are the most common challenges people face in Relationships?
Relationship problems. Everybody has them. And sometimes you have them over and over and over, and with this slowly loosing hope that there’s a solution.
Have you ever asked yourself the question: why do you want to be in a relationship? When asked, most people are surprised to find this is something they have never really considered. Relationships are just something that we do, and for many the answer to this question often ends up being that we want companionship or because we felt a spark of attraction when they first met.
As a result many don’t consider life style compatibility as an essential element in deciding to be in a ongoing committed relationship with someone or not. From this many people after the honeymoon wanes realise their relationship it not what it first seemed to be.
Most relationships issues stem from 5 main problems areas. These relate to difficulties with communication, emotional understanding, financial inter-dependency, relationship expectations, and sexual connection. Finding solutions to these issues needs to be of paramount importance, as over time if left unresolved will drain the love out of a once flourishing relationship.
What is your view on marriage and some ways couple can resolve their intimacy issues
Marriage worldwide is facing a variety of novel changes and challenges. From legal battles regarding who is and is not allowed to marry, and the issues facing couples that do enter into a modern day marriage.
Over the past several decades, the nature of marriage has changed. Many people are choosing to live their lives with partners without getting legally married as they have lost faith in marriage. Others have adopted a grandiose version of marriage, with the emphasis big expensive white wedding days, rather of on the reality that love is a journey of mistakes and forgiveness over time, not a fairy tale, falling in love, and living happily ever after.
People who cultivate romantic growth primarily seek out another who is willing to commit to developing the relationship together and creating deeper levels of intimacy and love. They are motivated to resolve conflicts as they arise. They believe that relationships do not just happen; they are due to focussing, prioritising and compromising even in times of turbulence. These relationships tend to be less passionate or even satisfied with their partners in the beginning. Usually they don’t have the same level of euphoric uplifting experience in the initial stages of courtship.
When issues begin to surface, relationship growth couples are usually more intuitively motivated to find as much of a win/win solution as possible rather than to reject their partner for minor disputes so as to support their relationship commitment. As a result, their relationships tend to be more long-term and fulfilling as they appreciate over time
What are your view on the relationship between sex and a couple’s relationship health
Sexuality is just one of the 5 main areas that tend to cause ongoing relationship issues. Although given the very sensitive nature of sexuality, it can often generate more hurt feelings, and make it harder to forgive. Finding solutions to sexual problems, dysfunctions, and incompatibilities is of utmost importance as the longer they are left unresolved the more chance there is of them causing tension outside of the bedroom.
What would you tell single people out there looking for love
Many young people reply on movies and television for guidance about love and relationships. However, the problem with this is that the major themes of movie and television, was the propensity for ‘love at first sight’, with the majority of the movies showing couples that fell in love instantly, got married, and lived happily ever after.
Research clearly shows that when comparing relationships of people who believe love is a journey with people who believe in soulmates and living happily ever after, some very interesting results were uncovered. People who believe in soulmates and twin flames tend to experience more anxiety and find it difficult to forgive their partners. They’re often less committed to a partner and to developing an ongoing sustainable relationship, especially when the challenges arise.
Those associating more with love as a journey were found to have less conflict and more celebrations with their romantic partner. The act of recalling celebrations and successes reflects an individual’s satisfaction with their relationship. People who believe they were meant for one another don’t succeed in relationships as often as those who are guided by the practice of love as a journey of mistakes and forgiveness. It appears that for most people, you don’t find your soulmate—you become soulmates. Along an ever-evolving, challenging, and satisfying journey.
An interview session between Jaime Shine and Andrew Barnes.
by HeartWorks | Sep 20, 2015 | NST Column |
As Published on New Straits Times – 16 August 2015
All emotions are intrinsically useful, and we need to learn and be more aware of managing them, writes Jaime Shine
There was a point in my life that I was struggling to make ends meet. It was the worse kind of feelings – devastation, feeling stuck and hopeless. Those were really dark times. My friends would be kind and offer words of encouragement like, “It’s going to be ok” and “Just think positive”, but nothing is positive about it. I did my best to perk myself up but no matter how hard I tried to do those positive affirmations and think positive it was not working for me. Fear and insecurities were just overwhelming.
Thankfully, I reached out for professional help and I am so glad that I did. I went on a journey of discovery and understood why I am feeling the way I did and how I can manage my emotions. At the same time, I learned techniques to change the way I think, my perspective and techniques for self-empowerment. I started to feel the relief I have not felt in a long time. I became more confident, less fearful and shift from feeling negative everyday to feeling that I can change my life around. I then understood that one couldn’t think positivity effectively until you really feel them. My life changed and this processes made such a huge impact in my life that I decided to make a career out of it: to help as many people understand about their emotions so they too can feel more empowered in their lives.
Managing our emotions is not something that is taught to us. We are fed with beliefs like ‘Boys don’t cry’ or ‘Never show your anger in public’. We are taught to suppress them because showing emotions mean we are weak. Yet all emotions are useful, they give us information about ourselves. Emotions like anger or guilt sends us signals that something is not working in our lives and change needs to happen. All emotions are intrinsically useful, it is the managing of these emotions that we need to learn and be more aware of.
PRACTISE MAKES PROGRESS
Here is the first process you can lean to release any overwhelming emotions that may be causing you stress or anxiety. Practice this everyday and you will be able to see a shift in your life for the better.
STEP 1
Find a condusive environment where you can be alone for 5 – 10 minutes. It can be at the park, in a cubicle, at home; anywhere that you can be with yourself and undisturbed. To begin, sit in a comfortable position on a chair or on the floor and focus on your breathing, relaxing yourself down. You can open your eyes or close them, try them both and see what works for you. As long as you are able to stay still and be very present with yourself.
STEP 2
Continue to focus on your breathing and relax. Now turn your awareness to your body and take notice if there is anything that is uncomfortable, tense, tight or painful. If you mind comes in with any distractions, just focus on your breathing and shift your focus again to your body.
Give yourself time to find this, you may or may not be open or aware of this if you have been used to suppression or distraction as a form of managing them but do persevere. Once you found an area where it is uncomfortable, tense, tight or painful, just keep your focus on it. If there is more than one area, pick one to work on.
STEP 3
When you have found that area, just keep breathing into it. Allow yourself to go deeper into those sensations and continue to allow yourself to go deeper and just be okay with feeling any sensations or emotions that is coming up for you. You may be overwhelmed by this, or not, so just keep at it and allow yourself full permission to go into this. Dropping deeper and deeper than before.
STEP 4
Once you have reached the deepest levels of that feeling, all you need is to feel it all. Just stay with it for while and focus on breathing into it even more. Once you have felt it all, you will start to feel a sense of relief. When the relief comes, focus on your exhalation and as if you are emptying out the sensation, see it leave your body like gas. With each exhalation, your breathe it out from your body. Inhaling positivity in, then exhaling out all the negativity until there is nothing left to feel. You may feel lighter and more at peace after this process. That is when you know that it is complete.
There may be certain information coming up while you are doing this process. A certain person or situation that has contributed to these sensations or something that you are upset about that surfaces or strong emotions that may come up. It is all normal and part of the process. Just continue to allow whatever you are feeling to surface. It may take more than one sitting to work on deeper issues but you will always feel relief after.
For your first time, you may want to work with someone else and take turns. I strongly encourage you to do this every day afterward and you will feel much lighter and more positive onwards to your road to emotional wellbeing.
by HeartWorks | Sep 20, 2015 | NST Column |
As Published on New Straits Times – 16 August 2015
Journey into Personal Independence by Jaime Shine
Each year Malaysians come together to celebrate “Hari Kemerdekaan” marking the joyous occasion of our independence day. Founded on the principles of liberty and justice, welfare and happiness of its people and maintenance of just peace among all nations, we seek our right to be free. As we get psyched up about the festivities, let us also explore the spirit of Independence Day within ourselves as an individual.
Being personally independent means that you are able to think and act for yourself and not be subjected to another’s authority or jurisdiction. It also means that you are free to be whatever you want to be, to take appropriate action and do what is right for yourself and not have to weigh your decisions based on how people think or perceive you to be. You will not be dependent on others for assistance or support but be competent, self confident and empowered.
Yet a lot of us are stuck in this dilemma of doing what is right in society’s eyes or what pleases my family most rather than act upon our true heart’s desires. We consciously or unconsciously weigh our options and make calculated decisions based on perceptions and expectations of other’s even if all you ever wanted to do is dance and sing and not a law degree or settling in a marriage just because it’s the right thing to do.
These decisions are the ones that inevitably put us into a jail like dilemma bringing us even deeper into a spiral of personal imprisonment thinking there is no way out and feelings or unhappiness and resentment that grows more and more everyday. And you wonder why there is so much rage everywhere.
Despite it all, it is never too late to make changes. Even our Independence took decades of fights and changes from colonial rule to communism to anti-colonial nationalism and finally independence. Likewise, your journey into personal independence can be crafted and shaped into your life through these steps.
Practise Makes Progress
4 Steps to create Personal Independence
1 Acknowledge where you are now
Taking stock on what is not working in your life right now is a good place to start. When we are unhappy, it means we are not doing what is best for us and something needs to change. We are creatures of self-improvement and will always have a deep wanting to be a better version of ourselves. So as you reflect upon what needs to change to make your life better, you are able to see the areas in which you would want to improve. Make sure you are totally honest with yourself in this process. If you cant see it, ask a friend to assist and point out areas in which you seem to complain a lot about – it’s the biggest clue!
2 Listening to your Heart
To get to where you would like to be, you really want to spend some time listening inward to what your heart’s true desires are. It is that nudging voice, that passionate tug at the heart that may sometimes be laden with fear but yet always calling out to you to go at it. It’s that gut feel, that inner knowingness of what you are meant to be. Meditation or any practise that can help quiet the mind will get you into your heart space where you can really listen.
3 Owning your Life
When you know where you are and where you would like to go, you can now craft a vision of what you want to create. Without limiting yourself with questions of “How do I get there” but keep the focus on “What do I want to create” you can eliminate all the mind chatter and own up to what you really want for your life.
4 One Step at a Time
Change is inevitable but can also create great resistance. Sometimes all it takes is a leap of faith but most times you would just want to take that next step. There are no right or wrong steps. Remove the labels and just take one step forward. It may be taking that dance class or enrolling in a workshop on your favorite subject, or perhaps taking a break from that unfulfilling relationship. Just one step forward will allow you to discover the possibilities of whether this new state will suit you, or not. As if you have never played the piano, how would you ever know if you like it or not?
Remember, the key is to follow your heart and make empowered choices and you are well on your way. Happy Personal Independence Day! May you continue to celebrate the greatness of your existence everyday! After all, YOU are part of what makes a country great.
by HeartWorks | Sep 20, 2015 | NST Column |
As Published on New Straits Times – 16 August 2015
There are many ways to strengthen family relationship, write Jaime Shine
What does family mean to you? For most people it is the greatest source of joy and happiness, the reason to live in this demanding world today. A source of comfort and belonging that none can replace. On the flip side, it mirrors some of our deepest pains and infliction of unhappiness. We have put them in such a deep place in our hearts that when friction arises, it hurts the most and causes the greatest amount of misery.
Despite its importance, most families are not aware of the efforts it takes to maintain positive and harmonious relationships within their family. Unfortunately these skills are not taught in schools and unless you are very self aware of your relationship wellbeing, chances are, you will pick up all the traits from your parents and become them or be a rebellion version of them.
These principles are not new, but rather in our technologically inclined society today where the phone has become your best friend and family, it is just missing. So here are key values every family can instill into their lives to create a harmonious and fulfilling relationship for all.
Inspire Love
We all love our family. Yes we do. Even through the days when they are a pain. Feeling the love for our family is the best value you can instill in yourself and your children. But there is a difference between love and responsibility. Love brings forth the wanting to show and continuously engage in giving and receiving love naturally. However responsibility is fueled by duty. Take a moment to ask yourself, when you are doing something for your family is it out of love or responsibility. When you pay attention to what drives your motivation, you will be able to switch it around. For some, love does not come naturally, instead responsibility does.
Show Respect
An old philosophy suggests that respect is earned, not given. I would say, show respect first and you will receive respect. There are a few keys areas to demonstrate that respect for fellow family members and the most important are: to respect a family member’s need for space and growth, entitlement for an opinion, responsibility for one’s decisions and actions, respecting someone’s time and presence.
Perhaps one of the hardest things for parents to do is to stand back and allow your child to make decisions thinking that it may be a costly mistake. I encourage you to stand back and allow their opinions, choices and decisions to take form. You may think that it will safeguard them from harm by wanting to protect them, however, this growth phrase of making decisions and learning from mistakes inevitably needs to happen for them to grow.
Practise allowing your child or family member to go through what they need to go through to learn, be supportive instead of discouraging no matter what you think of it. Shower advises, but leave the ultimate decision to them. You will see how they will blossom out of their experiences through time.
Be Kind
Have you notice that we can be extra kind and courteous to a stranger on the street yet take it for granted to be courteous to our own family? It can be the tone we use or forgetting to say “Please”, “Thank you” or “You’re welcome” regularly, thinking that they wont mind and will understand. Perhaps feeling a little entitled and expecting our family to do things for us anyway.
A little kindness really goes a long way. Being kind to each other fosters deep bonds and love within yourself and for others. Practise being courteous again, and in time, it will be reciprocated.
Communicate consistently
The most important thing for deep family bond boils down to communication. So many disruptions in relationships happen when there is a communication breakdown. Feelings that needed to be expressed are not shown or spoken about and the truth is hidden and resentment harbors.
As a rule of thumb always say what you mean and mean what you say. Be honest and truthful in your communication and always be tactful when expressing sensitive issues. It may not be easy initially to always speak the truth and express exactly how you feel but through practise it will get easier.
PRACTISE MAKES PROGRESS
Here are practical steps you can do to create better family harmony now.
Show your Love
Practise showing love and gratitude to each other, especially the little things and say it when you feel it.
Show respect
Acknowledge someone’s presence in the room, allow others to their opinions and decision making and be supportive.
Be kind all the time
Mind your please, thank you’s and apologise when you need to. We all make mistakes, owning up to them teaches and shows great courage.
Speak up
Always communicate your feelings truthfully and be there to listen when someone does. Your attention and presence makes them feel heard.
